In most cases, the thought of retreat seems weak and cowardly. When a group retreats it means the battle is lost and the injured survivors gather together, bandage their wounds, and hope for the best. Well let me tell you, the couple’s retreat we attended this past weekend was anything but weak and cowardly! It was filled with great teaching, powerful worship, and valuable time spent alone with the most important person I know on this earth – my wife! This past weekend has better equipped my wife and I to go forward as a team into whatever or where ever the Lord leads.
Instead of a Couple’s Retreat, it could be called a Couple’s Challenge!
I mentioned Friday that I would review what I learned this past weekend. The speaker, Dr. Devon Blanton, has an extensive background in counseling and nutrition and was able to shed light on many areas that affect our marriage. Things as simple as how a poor diet and the lack of sleep affect our mood, to more detailed things like knowing how our spouse processes information helps us be better communicators.
So here are just ten of the things that I learned or was reminded of this weekend…
- Time alone with my wife is not just a nice idea, it’s a mandatory requirement for a strong marriage.
- Getting rid of distractions makes time with my wife much more enjoyable.
- Having Communion with my wife is an awesome experience!
- My wife and I process things differently. The more often I can remember that, the better our marriage can be.
- I’m reminded how much fun my wife and I have when we are alone together.
- Eating a proper diet and getting enough rest has a huge impact on our marriage.
- I’m reminded of how important respecting my spouse is. What her and I do, share, and discuss may very well be no one else’s business. Fortunately, we’ve lived by that standard throughout our marriage and I believe it’s one thing that we’ve done well.
- You don’t have to spend hundreds of dollars to have a priceless weekend with your spouse.
- I’m reminded how much fun it is to have secret jokes with my wife. Things that only her and I know about.
- I’m reminded that no matter how good our marriage is, we can always learn more. More about each other, about being a better partner, and more about what God has to say about our marriage.
Again, this couple’s retreat was not for the weak – it was a challenge! We had about 32 couples attend and now that we are armed with the tools for better, stronger marriages, we are responsible for putting it into action! I hope that the other couples who attended had as much fun as my wife and I did.
If you have never attended a Christian marriage/couple’s retreat, find one in your area and put it on your schedule!
Did you attend the 2012 SFWC Couple’s Retreat? If so, share what you learned!