Mining Diamonds: Finding and nurturing gifts in your child.

Rough_cullinan_diamondIn 1905, a man named Frederick Wells was 18 feet below the earth’s surface, performing a routine inspection in a mine owned by Sir Thomas Cullinan.  While working, Wells looked up and caught a glimpse of light.  This glimmer buried deep in the earth turned out to be the largest diamond ever mined to date – known today as the Cullinan.  Talk about some guys having all the luck!

Soon after this amazing diamond was unearthed, it was sent to a master diamond cutter named Joseph Asscher.  Asscher spent 6 months simply studying the diamond, planning how he would approach the detailed cuts that would need to be made in order to transform this rough diamond into a masterpiece.  The pressure of working with such a rare find was so great that Asscher fainted after making the first cut – a cut that fortunately created the perfect result he had hoped for.  At completion, the Cullinan diamond had been divided into 9 large stones and about 100 smaller ones – altogether worth millions of dollars.

Why this bit of historical trivia?  Because it shows the value of mining and craftsmanship.  Inside our children are gifts that have been placed by God, just waiting to be discovered, polished, and put on display for His glory.  It is our job as parents to keep our eyes open to these “glimmers of light”.

It may be easier to spot these “diamonds in the rough” than you think.  Does your child always walk around the house (and store, and backyard, and in the car…) singing?  Mine that diamond!  Do they love to write stories or create art?  Catch that glint of light!  Do they seem to have a gift for speaking, sharing, or teaching?  Don’t overlook that gem!  Do they have a noticeable compassion for those who are hurting or in need?  Take notice!  Just as Wells had a trained eye for spotting diamonds in a mine, it is our job as parents to spot the God-given gifts and talents in our children.

But dad, it doesn’t stop there.  Simply pointing out a talent in your son or daughter isn’t enough.  If Wells had spotted the Cullinan but left it buried in the mine, it would have never been enjoyed by the world.  If he went a step further and had it carefully removed from the surrounding stone and set on display, it would have indeed been the largest diamond ever found, but it’s potential beauty would have never been realized.  It was only after the diamond was studied and crafted by a master that its true worth and beauty was released for all to see.

When you discover a talent in your child, take time to point it out.  Praise them.  Make a big deal about it!  In doing so, they will know that you are in their corner, supporting and admiring them.  Then, do what you can to help them develop their talent.  Guide them, but be sensitive to let them set the pace (see Colossians 3:21).  Provide the prayer, resources, opportunities, and encouragement that will help them push forward and develop their gift even when the going gets difficult.  Ultimately, it is The Master who will develop the gift in your son or daughter in a deeper, spiritual level and provide the opportunity for them to display the beauty of what He has done in them.

As a parent, you know your child better than anyone else does.  You are in the best position to notice and promote the development of the gifts in them.  Further, God has given us the responsibility to intentionally raise our children to know Him, love Him, and live a life that honors Him (Proverbs 22:6, Deuteronomy 6:6–7).  As we remember that our children are a gift from God (Psalms 127:3), and that the gifts in them were placed by Him, it will help us to see these talents as the true treasure they are.

Now go mine those diamonds!

– Rick



Colossians 3:21 “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.”  

Proverbs 22:6   “Train up a child in the way he should go;  Even when he is old he will not depart from it.”  

Deuteronomy 6:6–7  “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”

Psalms 127:3  “:Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb a reward.”



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Why your Legacy should be important to you.

Have you ever taken time to walk through a graveyard?  

It’s actually a great place to start when thinking about legacy. It is sobering to walk through and consider that each of the stones represents the life of someone who has once lived on this earth .  The dates on the stones vary; some lived long lives, others seem painfully short even to the casual observer.

Of the many lives represented in the cemetery, each is remembered by something different by those they left behind.  There are those who accomplished great things and there are others who lived beneath their potential.  There are some who were loved by spouse, children, and life-long friends, while others left a trail of pain behind them, sacrificing relationships for selfishness.  Some contributed, some took.  Some built, some destroyed. Regardless of their success or failure, one thing remains the same:

Every one of them left a legacy.

Without exception, we will all leave a legacy when we leave this earth and that legacy is being developed right now.  Right this minute. It is being created by the way we love our family, where we invest our time, the way we perform our duties at work, and most importantly, by the way we love and serve God.  These things and more are creating the “you” people will remember when you are gone.

Throughout the month of June we will look at legacy and answer these questions:

  1. What is legacy and why is it important?
  2. What are the different ways people view legacy?
  3. What are biblical examples of legacy – good and bad?
  4. How can we start investing in our legacy?

We hope you’ll stop by each week to learn more about the importance of legacy.  The choices you are making today are determining the legacy you will leave tomorrow!

“How much better it is to get wisdom than gold! And to get understanding is to be chosen above silver.” Proverbs 16:16

25 Ways to Show Your Wife You Love Her.


The key to a successful marriage is putting your spouse’s needs ahead of your own. Here are 25 practical suggestions gleaned from 25 years of happy marriage.


To be truly heard is the longing of every human heart, and your wife is no exception. It sounds simple, but listening can be harder than it seems with so many distractions around us and within us. Set aside some time every day to look into your wife’s eyes and really listen to what she has to say. You may be surprised at what you hear. (James 1:19, Matthew 11:15)


Don’t make her guess what you are thinking or feeling.

Sing Her Praises

Shamelessly brag about her good qualities and quietly pray about her bad ones. Her reputation is your reputation. (Proverbs 31:28-29)

Pray For Her and With Her

Praying on your wife’s behalf not only enlists the help of the Almighty, but also puts her and her needs at the forefront of your heart and mind, right where they belong. Praying alongside your wife will strengthen your relationship like nothing else. Studies show that couples who regularly pray together stay together, enjoying a 1% divorce rate compared to the usual rate of 50% or more. (Philippians 4:6; Matthew 18:19)

Value Her Individuality

Your wife is wonderfully unique. Don’t compare her to your mom, or your ex-wife, or your old girlfriend. Your mom may make the best chocolate chip cookies in the world, but unfavorable comparisons won’t win you brownie points.


[Click here to see the other 20 ideas in the original article by Doug Flanders, MD]