Have you ever taken time to walk through a graveyard?
It’s actually a great place to start when thinking about legacy. It is sobering to walk through and consider that each of the stones represents the life of someone who has once lived on this earth . The dates on the stones vary; some lived long lives, others seem painfully short even to the casual observer.
Of the many lives represented in the cemetery, each is remembered by something different by those they left behind. There are those who accomplished great things and there are others who lived beneath their potential. There are some who were loved by spouse, children, and life-long friends, while others left a trail of pain behind them, sacrificing relationships for selfishness. Some contributed, some took. Some built, some destroyed. Regardless of their success or failure, one thing remains the same:
Every one of them left a legacy.
Without exception, we will all leave a legacy when we leave this earth and that legacy is being developed right now. Right this minute. It is being created by the way we love our family, where we invest our time, the way we perform our duties at work, and most importantly, by the way we love and serve God. These things and more are creating the “you” people will remember when you are gone.
Throughout the month of June we will look at legacy and answer these questions:
- What is legacy and why is it important?
- What are the different ways people view legacy?
- What are biblical examples of legacy – good and bad?
- How can we start investing in our legacy?
We hope you’ll stop by each week to learn more about the importance of legacy. The choices you are making today are determining the legacy you will leave tomorrow!
“How much better it is to get wisdom than gold! And to get understanding is to be chosen above silver.” Proverbs 16:16
The key to a successful marriage is putting your spouse’s needs ahead of your own. Here are 25 practical suggestions gleaned from 25 years of happy marriage.
To be truly heard is the longing of every human heart, and your wife is no exception. It sounds simple, but listening can be harder than it seems with so many distractions around us and within us. Set aside some time every day to look into your wife’s eyes and really listen to what she has to say. You may be surprised at what you hear. (James 1:19, Matthew 11:15)
Don’t make her guess what you are thinking or feeling.
Sing Her Praises
Shamelessly brag about her good qualities and quietly pray about her bad ones. Her reputation is your reputation. (Proverbs 31:28-29)
Pray For Her and With Her
Praying on your wife’s behalf not only enlists the help of the Almighty, but also puts her and her needs at the forefront of your heart and mind, right where they belong. Praying alongside your wife will strengthen your relationship like nothing else. Studies show that couples who regularly pray together stay together, enjoying a 1% divorce rate compared to the usual rate of 50% or more. (Philippians 4:6; Matthew 18:19)
Value Her Individuality
Your wife is wonderfully unique. Don’t compare her to your mom, or your ex-wife, or your old girlfriend. Your mom may make the best chocolate chip cookies in the world, but unfavorable comparisons won’t win you brownie points.
[Click here to see the other 20 ideas in the original article by Doug Flanders, MD]
I’ll start off by saying what you already know. There is no silver bullet or magic potion when it comes to making great dads. I wish it were that easy, as it could have saved me from many painful fatherhood fiascos. Yet, we can gain great insights from Scripture and from gleaning from some godly fathers that have gone before us.
Over the past decade, I’ve been blessed to serve alongside men doing all they can to be the best dads they can be. While each one of these men have their unique styles, they definitely share some common traits or focus points that make them effective within their fatherhood roles. I have personally been blessed by being around these men and want to share some of the insights I’ve gained.
Some of these should be no-brainers. However, if you’re like me, we sometimes need reminded of the basics. My dad was great in driving this point home. He often related this truth to sports. However, the veracity of this maxim holds true in almost any area of life: If something isn’t going well, make sure the fundamentals or basics are getting done. Too often during life’s chaotic times, we forget the basics and pay the price. As a matter of fact, I’ll go ahead and include this fatherhood truism within our 10 Traits of Great Dads.
10 Traits of Effective Dads
- They keep their lives de-compartmentalized. They are the same man, husband and father regardless of where and when. This directly connects to the character of these men. None are perfect, but I would trust everyone of them with my kids.
- They realize that their manhood and fatherhood is directly tied to their relationship with God. This means time in God’s Word, time in prayer and time with God’s people is an essential part of their lives.
- If still married, they uphold their wives as their number one friend and co-worker in life. They realize that loving their wives is one of the greatest things they could ever give their kids and they protect their marriage like it’s their life.
- They practice the discipline of meekness. They exemplify the combination of humility and strength. Men need to be strong for their families not at their families. These great dads get this idea well. In these homes, yelling and abuse of any kind is never tolerated.
- They’ve tied their hearts to the hearts of their children. There is a very special God-given bond that they cherish and cultivate on a daily basis. This means they are always looking to create heart-moments with their kids, especially when it comes to sharing God’s love and truth with them.
[Click here to read the rest of this great article by JT Waresak]