Why your Legacy should be important to you.

Have you ever taken time to walk through a graveyard?  

It’s actually a great place to start when thinking about legacy. It is sobering to walk through and consider that each of the stones represents the life of someone who has once lived on this earth .  The dates on the stones vary; some lived long lives, others seem painfully short even to the casual observer.

Of the many lives represented in the cemetery, each is remembered by something different by those they left behind.  There are those who accomplished great things and there are others who lived beneath their potential.  There are some who were loved by spouse, children, and life-long friends, while others left a trail of pain behind them, sacrificing relationships for selfishness.  Some contributed, some took.  Some built, some destroyed. Regardless of their success or failure, one thing remains the same:

Every one of them left a legacy.

Without exception, we will all leave a legacy when we leave this earth and that legacy is being developed right now.  Right this minute. It is being created by the way we love our family, where we invest our time, the way we perform our duties at work, and most importantly, by the way we love and serve God.  These things and more are creating the “you” people will remember when you are gone.

Throughout the month of June we will look at legacy and answer these questions:

  1. What is legacy and why is it important?
  2. What are the different ways people view legacy?
  3. What are biblical examples of legacy – good and bad?
  4. How can we start investing in our legacy?

We hope you’ll stop by each week to learn more about the importance of legacy.  The choices you are making today are determining the legacy you will leave tomorrow!

“How much better it is to get wisdom than gold! And to get understanding is to be chosen above silver.” Proverbs 16:16

How your environment – good or bad – shapes your life and the life your family.

waiting to hear from GodWhen you look in the mirror, who do you see? Do you like the man looking back at you? Do you like his attitude? Do you trust his judgment?  Is he a good father and/or husband?  Is he who you dreamed he’d be?

There are probably some things you like and other things you wish you could do away with. Whatever your thoughts on the man you see, there have been many things through the years to help form the package you are – many of them were even out of your control.  For now we’ll refer to these experiences as the environment we grew up in.  To help explain how our environment plays such an important role in our life and in the lives of children, let me share the following:

“There is a story told of a farmer who took a small pumpkin and placed it inside a glass jug.  The pumpkin grew.  When the farmer broke the jug, he found that the pumpkin had become the exact size and shape of the jug.  The pumpkin had been molded by the jug!  What has molded you into what you have become? The far more important question, however, is, what is now molding you into what you will become?”

This is an excerpt from the book “How to Become a Great Man of God” by James Stone and it’s an excellent illustration of how our environment shapes us as children and continues to shape us in our adult years.  What are some of the things that helped shape you into the man you are today?

  1. Your parents and/or others who raised you.
  2. Your childhood friends.
  3. The community you grew up in.
  4. The church you attended (or did not attend).
  5. The circumstances and experiences you were subjected to as a child and into your teen years.

These things and more make up the “jar” you grew up in and shaped you into the man you are mentally, spiritually, relationally, and even physically in some cases.  Can you see why it’s so important for us men to create positive environments for our children and other children around us?  We can’t always control the neighborhood we live in or the school our child attends but we can control the environment of our home.  Is it positive? Encouraging?  Loving? Fun?  Are there clear rules for behavior and interaction? Do you share God’s word with your kids through family devotions and prayer?  Being intentional with our family and the atmosphere of our home will allow us to positively impact our kids – not just for the day, but for life.  For LIFE.  Take a minute to think about that.  What we do today affects who the men and women our sons and daughters will grow to be and how they will perceive the world around them.

We have a big job, guys!  That’s why it’s so important for us men to surround ourselves with positive, godly friends and mentors.  The environment we surround ourselves with significantly impacts our view of the world as men – just as our home environment does for our children.  Who we take advice from, what we watch on television and internet, what music we listen to, and what thoughts we dwell on all create the frame through which we view the world.  And the way we see the world, the advice we take from others, and the quality of our relationship with God all affect our family.  You can hopefully see the importance of being intentional with our own environment as much as that of our kids!

Neither being a godly man nor providing a positive, encouraging environment in your home will come by accident.  It comes only by decision – intentional manhood – and that comes only through the wisdom and guidance of the Holy Spirit each day in our lives. We will still fail at times.  We’ll still have some regrets.  But the successes will far outweigh the failures and in future years our children will look back and appreciate the man of God they call Daddy.

20 characteristics of a godly man.


Opinions are easy to come by – people will have one on just about anything you ask. The weather last weekend? Last night’s game?  The food at the new restaurant? Just ask and they’ll have their perspective ready for sharing.

Like our thoughts about our favorite football team, most of us also have an opinion about what it means to be a real man. Strong? Courageous?  A great leader? Characteristics like these come to mind for some but something totally different for others.

The truth is, it doesn’t matter what you or I think it means to be a man.  What really matters are the characteristics God says a man should have.  With that in mind, we’ve compiled a list of 20 biblical characteristics of a godly man to help us see how we measure up.  Ready for them?

Here you go…

1. A godly man is a just man – Micah 6:8
2. A godly man is a man of mercy – Micah 6:8
3. A godly man is a man of humility – Micah 6:8  
4. A godly man is blameless – Psalms 15
5. A godly man is righteous – Psalms 15
6. A godly man is truthful – Psalms 15
7. A godly man does not slander – Psalms 15
8. A godly man is kind to neighbors – Psalms 15
9. A godly man despises evil – Psalms 15
10. A godly man keeps promises, even to his hurt – Psalms 15
11. A godly man is giving, not greedy – Psalms 15
12. A godly man is a man of integrity – Psalms 15
13. A godly man is unshakeable – Psalms 15
14. A godly man is holy – Ephesians 1:4
15. A godly man is a doer of the word of God – James 1:25
16. A godly man is fruitful – Galatians 5:22-23, Psalms 1:3
17. A godly man delights in the Lord’s commands – Psalms 1:1
18. A godly man is prosperous – Psalms 1:3
19. A godly man does not blend in with the world – Psalms 1:1
20. A godly man strives for perfection in Christ – Matthew 5:48

So, how did you do?  If you’re like us, you’ve got some things to work on — but at least we now have a place to start.  It’s tough to be godly men living an intentional life if we haven’t taken time learn the characteristics of a godly man. How do we measure our progress?  Surely not by our own opinion or by those in the world around us!  Keep in mind that it’s not by our own resolution or determination that we will become more Christ-like.  It’s through our relationship with Jesus and His work in our life.

We hope you’ll spend some time each day reading the bible and discovering who God has created you to be.